I am 33 too, have crohns and a jpouch and take remicade once every four weeks. My GI says it's either this or likely lose the jpouch. I don't like either choices. With the remicade it's keeping the ulcers at bay, for now. I do get sick a lot. But I'm also on methotrexate. If you take remicade you'll also have to be on an immunosuppressive. Sorry about all the crap you're going through with your husband. That's rough. Speaking with a relationship counselor may help. I don't know. Dialogue is always good, I guess. Feel free to DM me anytime for any questions.