Jayda, I also had j-pouch removal with internally sewn BB and a permanent ostomy almost five years ago. You will hear differing accounts regarding BB healing but let me be another one who says that it is not as bad as you may be imagining. I took my pain meds for several weeks but was able to sit, albeit slightly on my side, about a week after surgery. Yes, the surgery itself took a lot out of me but I tried to be kind to myself and have realistic expectations. Use your mom’s help and go slowly. Good luck!