Cdub, geez can't even try to help nowadays! Why can't straight guys give advice to gay people? sorry I certainly didn't mean to cause any embarrassment or offence. I had read the full thread and no-one (including those with direct experience) had answered the question. That said I accept I may have misread/ misunderstood the query (he asks what he can and can't do shortly after mentioning his sexuality and this is posted on the men's health thread, so if I have got this wrong I hope it's accepted as a genuine mistake, and known that I was genuinely trying to be supportive by directing to resources already available on this forum.
I will surely think twice before trying to help anyone in future who does not meet my exact democratic in case it offends someone I wasnt talking too!