Thanks for the responses, I need to remember some of the basics, like bananas and peanut butter to slow things down, I do take immodium, 8 of them a day, but I need to go back to the benefiber every morning. I've found the anti-monkey butt cream works pretty well, but I had a salad Thursday and I'm STILL paying for it. I also need to have more patience. I've been so depressed with this and I suddenly also have an empty nest, and can't work, so it's just a whole lot at once. I've never posted here before. I'm glad I did!