Hansen,
I’m roughly 2.5 years post surgery. While I don’t remember exactly how I was feeling at every stage, I do remember sometime during the early stages I was feeling the same way you are now. To the point where I questioned my doctor on switching to a permanent pouch. Doctor said to give it some time and it would get better. He was right, it will get better. It’s hard to get used to at first. The best thing you can do right now, is when you feel the sensation to go, hold it as long as you can. By doing that, it will stretch the pouch and allow you to go longer between bathroom visits. Stay positive, it’ll all work out!