Hi Bret. See my post above, but yes, if your surgeon has said it may be okay then he's definitely the best-informed person (after yourself) to tell you this. Take it easy, experiment somewhere safe and comfortable, with plenty lube, and see what's possible.
Did you get the Dialogue I started with you?
Yes, replied now.
Thanks for the input, Defiant1.
I am awaiting more consultation with surgeons, but I figure J Pouch is the option I'm going to settle on.
I'm open to a relationship after that, but would never kid myself: I won't be sexually compatible with or desirable to a large portion of eligible men and I won't get what I truly want because my heart is on the bottom.
I'm about to turn 40 and have plenty of other concerns and interests. I have usually been single and am comfortable romantically unattached, if not alone. I don't see romance in my cards and I'm okay with that.
Thank you for sharing your story and supporting a boyfriend with this condition.