Hi Bret. See my post above, but yes, if your surgeon has said it may be okay then he's definitely the best-informed person (after yourself) to tell you this. Take it easy, experiment somewhere safe and comfortable, with plenty lube, and see what's possible.
Did you get the Dialogue I started with you?
Yes, replied now.
Thanks for the input, Defiant1.
I am awaiting more consultation with surgeons, but I figure J Pouch is the option I'm going to settle on.
I'm open to a relationship after that, but would never kid myself: I won't be sexually compatible with or desirable to a large portion of eligible men and I won't get what I truly want because my heart is on the bottom.
I'm about to turn 40 and have plenty of other concerns and interests. I have usually been single and am comfortable romantically unattached, if not alone. I don't see romance in my cards and I'm okay with that.
Thank you for sharing your story and supporting a boyfriend with this condition.
Hi, old discussion but still new to a lot of us. I've had my J-Pouch for about three years now, always believing other peoples answers about "NO ANAL SEX". But my question was finally answered from my surgeon himself. He bluntly told me that anal sex for me should be no problem. Not only did enough time for it to heal passed, but he said the pouch is a few inches long, enough to not worry about it getting destroyed. But to start slowly. I HIGHLY recommend you discuss it with your surgeons. It has taken a heavy weight off my shoulders and put my mind at ease. I'm not openly gay (yet) but i managed to have the guts (pun intended) to tell my surgeon how i felt...great decision.
Congratulations, that's great news and I'm really pleased for you. Good luck!
Good luck, alfmed. Let us know how your experimentation goes.
Best of wishes navigating life gay, as well. If you come out of the closet, I'll think you'll find that people will trust and respect you more. You'll have a lot of fun, too