my wife informed me tonight that she is no longer interested in having sex with me.
i have very significant erectile dysfunction since takedown. i'm the man i was before surgery about 4 times a year and beyond that the surgery has turned me into a two pump chump. if i can get it up at all...
i can understand where my wife is coming from and in a sense im relieved but on the other hand i feel betrayed. i was very agressively pushed into this by her and my surgeon, i had no interest in having the surgery, ever. i could see all the things that are a result of this long before they occured. i told her and my surgeon that i need my independance and this will take it from me which it has. that said...ive made my peace with most of it until my wifes comment tonight.
there is a legitimate part of me that sees this marriage ending slowly and coldly because im not sure i can respect someone who would push me into something like this and then say such a thing. i mean the level of pressure i would feel if i ever attempted to have sex with her again is astronomical.
the relieved part of me thinks im overreacting but both parts of me have no idea how i can stay "happily" married to her now.
i feel like i should be angry but i feel more shut off...
your thoughts?
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