thanks you guys for your responds and for sharing your stories. i'm happy to have found a place to kinda vent and express myself to others who are going or have gone thru similar situations. definitely staying positive thru this kinds of situations is key as your spouse/partner could tell by just looking at us what we're thinking or feeling. its been hard but i think there's definitely a light at the end of the tunnel. when i wrote my message things were on the down. we were overwhelmed and to a point backed up against a wall. thankfully though the winds have changed a bit and things are a bit better. slowly but surely we'll get thru this.
Peaches, like you said these situations are hard for them because they are physically going thru them, but also hard for us who have to see them endure such pains and discomforts. we have found ways to cherish each moment and appreciate each other thru all of this and the more struggles we get thru together-united, we become stronger as a couple.
Wilson, i'm so sorry for all that you guys are going thru. we've been there. i remember when the hubbs got his surgery the 3months he was with the ostomy bag (his jpouch surgery was done in two portions) he was down and wouldn't even leave his house. i had to drag him out. its a painful process emotionally and physically. stay positive. think of ways to distract him even for a lil bit (a movie, dinner out, a walk in a park. etc) changing his environment or place even if its for an hour can lift his spirits. regarding your daughter, you can kind of explain to her whats going on and having her look up online his condition. the more i read about it, the more i understood him; even if it was just a lil. find ways to spend time together as a family.